I'm Tiger Woods

Who can forget those adorable little faces from Nike's "I Am Tiger Woods" ad campaign? Golf was almost immediately being watched by a wider and more diverse audience, and being played by people once denied access to the same courses on which the game takes place. Kids everywhere wondered what it would be like to be Tiger Woods, the golfer.

And, now there is a new reason to want to be like the smiling, 33 year-old mega-star who never seems to make a wrong move: his role as "Dad."

The images of Tiger and his father Earl embracing on the golf course are as well known as the red-shirt-ed, fist-pumping Tiger adding another trophy to his collection. The love and respect from father to son was tangible and admirable. As the NYTimes piece above notes, "If Woods grew up knowing nothing else, it was that his father and his mother, Kultida, were wholly committed to him."

And, that's an important lesson to take away from this story. Kids will always want to be Tiger Woods. They will want to achieve his success on the golf course and be worth what he is worth. But, with Father's Day just in our rear-view mirrors, fathers (and fathers-to-be) should garner additional inspiration from the phrase "wholly committed to him." We can't all fly our kids around the world to watch Daddy play golf like Tiger Woods. We can't all take the time away from work to foster our child's passion for golf like Earl Woods. But, what we can do is work hard everyday to be sure our kids know we are wholly committed to them . . . And, you don't need a private jet to do that.

The Review Adds 10 Pounds!

Britney Spears is touring in Europe to mixed reviews:

Critique: "She hardly engaged the audience"

Praise: "Britney Spears was the perpetual motion machine"

These, from the professional reviewers. The fans paint a different picture with words like "awesome" and "great." But, one theme that was clear throughout is that Britney's body will always be a topic of discussion (she probably can't avoid this while wearing those outfits):

"She showed that her body was tight"

"She appeared healthy, robust and happy"

But, of course, there are always more negative comments like "chunky" and "heavy," and so many of these comments are from men. Looking at her body and reading these words, one has to wonder, "What more can she do?"

Let's just hope her youngest fans aren't internalizing these negative thoughts . . . as much as we know they are.

So, I'm Gay Now?

- This photo was taken in a toddler playground of a housing project in Brooklyn 

There are a number of problems with this scene. To start, the grammar is off - it should be "sees." And, where's the punctuation? (Who's teaching kids how to write derogatory hate messages these days??) The second problem is the placement - a baby and toddler playground? For whom is this written? And, the most glaring issue is . . . it makes no sense.

Phrases like, "That's so gay" or "You're gay" have simply become all too prevalent. The terms are thrown around without caution, often (as in this case) without an identifiable context. One would think that the overuse of these phrases would lessen their effect; would reduce the pain felt by those on the receiving end because the words are so commonplace.

The truth is that the language still hurts, as evidenced by the recent suicide deaths of young boys who were the victims of homophobic bullying. And, even a message like the one above - intended for no one and everyone - adds to the hurt.

In trying to figure out how to eliminate the language from our lexicon and how to rid ourselves of homophobic bullying, are we also thinking about how to lessen the hurt these words cause? While addressing the taunting, are we also empowering the taunted to get past the attacks?

If only it were as easy as simply seeing that being called gay is not an insult...

Truly An Obamanation?

There are some folks in the South who are up to old tricks... Or, at least they haven't adopted any new ones. Turns out there are places in America that still have segregated proms!

Whatchu talkin' bout, Willis?!

Yep, best friends, teammates, study mates - all share a school and common experience until it's time to dance at the end of the year. Then, there is a White prom on one night, and a Black prom on the next. The students don't seem to want it this way, so who exactly are these proms for?

The worst part is the explanation: "It's how it's always been."

You know, there are a lot of things that had just "always been" that were eventually changed. And, no self-respecting school - or state, for that matter - should allow this to continue. Especially not when we have a 1/2 Black, 1/2 White president in the White House... (Wonder which prom he would attend...)

Daddy's Home! (Not By Choice)

Have you noticed a rise in stroller-pushing Dads in your neighborhood? And, not just on the weekends? It turns out the economy has relegated many fathers to new professions: Stay-At-Home Dads.

It will be interesting to watch how this trend plays out. Not only are gender roles being challenged - or balanced - in terms of parenting, but there are also the sometimes unspoken dynamics which surround whose is the primary income in the house. In "Dreams From My Father," Barack Obama discusses this dynamic between his grandmother and grandfather and the challenges it created in their household. That was the 60's. We've made great strides since then. More women are in the workforce, earn more money than they used to, and compete for higher positions. But, will both parents be ok with a wife's being the breadwinner? With a husband without a job? With a father being a stay-at-home dad?

We'll have to wait and see. Let's just hope those fathers out there are able to see that the unfortunate position of being out of work does not compare to the fortunate position of raising your child everyday... No matter how exhausting.

Still In My Prime

How does that quotation go about teaching old dogs new tricks?

Well, the folks at the Michael Ann Russell JCC haven't given up hope. Responding to a recent rise in sexually transmitted infections among senior citizens, members of the organization got together and created a claymation, informational video on the dangers of unprotected senior sex:

In a related story, The Girls & Boys Project is developing a senior curriculum for this neglected population... Gotta stay cutting edge!

Bonus: A little humorous coverage of the story courtesy of The Daily Show.

Take a Stand. Lend a Hand.

Stop Bullying Now!

That's the mantra headlining the government's anti-bullying campaign. The website is extremely accessible and kid-friendly (mostly ages 9-13, with information for anyone - including an Educator's Corner and a Family Corner). Kids will be able to relate to the stories and scenarios, which were contributed by the Expert Youth Panel, i.e. other kids. Encourage kids to take the "Do You Bully Others" quiz . . . Examples include:

• You and your friends have regularly kept one or more kids from hanging out or playing with you. 
  
• You've teased people in a mean way, calling them names, making fun of their appearance, or the way they talk or dress or act.
  

Congrats to the HRSA for creating a great resource for kids. Hopefully, kids will take away some tools for dealing with bullying...

I Used To Rule The World

Kudos to the PS22 Chorus - kids and faculty!

In light of vast budget cuts in the music and arts, the voices and faces in this video serve as clear reminders that these programs enrich kids' lives.  Look at the seriousness with which these young singers approach their Coldplay cover.  Note the pride in their faces as they harmonize effortlessly.

Government officials should visit PS22's blog to be reminded of what is lost when these programs are cut . . . Or, they can simply enjoy a respite from the grind of the day.

Let Them Lead The Way

It's hard to imagine what it's like to be a gay or bi-sexual teacher in schools these days. With the language that students use, it's even harder to imagine how one could come out in that environment. That's why Chance Nalley's story is so refreshing.

When Nalley came out to his school in 2007, the reaction was surprise, then surprise:

“I was really surprised,” recalled [a] 13-year old boy. “It didn’t change anything about what we thought about him, though.”

Surprised?

Yes, kids can certainly be mean at times. Honestly, they can be flat out ruthless. But, they can also be the most supportive audience when they're ready. And, they can teach adults a lot about acceptance and openness . . .

(Warning: Happy Ending)

The 32 year-old teacher is going to celebrate his commitment to his partner in a ceremony this April . . . and, is expecting almost 100 of his middle schoolers to be there.

Don't Google Your Name!

It was advice given by a former American Idol contestant to the current cast.  Rihanna may need to take this advice to heart.

The internet reaction to the Rihanna-Chris Brown saga has been alarming . . . and, yet, somewhat predictable. Were Rihanna to read these comments, she might start to believe that this assault was her fault. Young female voices are placing the blame on Rihanna in large numbers - and in no uncertain terms. Yes, they are girls and young women, but they are also fans:

“She probly ran into a door and was too embarrassed so blamed it on chris.” (NYTimes March 18, 2009)

After sitting in on a NYC middle school advisory this week, it is clear that this "siding" [with Chris Brown] is the norm, not the exception. Are we raising a generation of girls that will come to accept violence in relationships as normal? Even worse, are we raising boys who are listening to these girls and thinking, "If they don't have a problem with it..."

The Othello lesson at the end of the article (above) is one approach to addressing this issue. Would love to hear what else is being done out there...